Wednesday, January 09, 2008

Unfaithfull


There are three unforgivable sins in a relationship
*Jealousy
*Unfaithfulness
*Violence
Now while two of the tree are set in stone I am having a problem defining cheating today.
having had a chat with two of my friends today and having been given two different opinions I would now like to know what your opinion is.

what constitutes cheating?
Where does it start ... with a kiss....penetration...or can cuddling and holding hands be put in the category....?
or does it start with simply the intention ....
online flirting is definitely cheating in my book because it is worse than physically doing the deed its cheating on an emotional level.
personally I think that if its bad enough to hide from your partner then its cheating.

what do you think
can holding hands and cuddling behind your partners back be cheating?
and am I over reacting for saying that if my guy were to cuddle up to some other chick and hold hands with her that I would be well and Good upset?

11 comments:

Claudia said...

Oh hell no. Harmless flirting is one thing...getting physical? You've crossed the line and need a good ass-kicking...whether that's kissing, cuddling or more. Emotional cheating is harder to define, but if you're closer to someone else than your partner, then that's a problem.

Lady Black said...

If you wouldnt like your partner to do it, you shouldnt.

if you say cuddling and you mean not like a hug but snuggly snuggly lay around with me crap then yes yes yes cheeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeet.
holding hands is one of the first signs of relationship stufff so yes

and damn I would freak if my mates didnt let me know....would they let me get in the car with a drunk cos it aint their bussiness? I think not

sweetass RSA said...

hell yes that's cheating...

Ruby said...

definitely cheating! Even just flirting could be cheating if its done in secret.

If you're flirting with your friends while your guy is around and it doesn't bother him.....well that's different. but holding hands, cuddling all of that...cheating cheating cheating bastard!

Bridget said...

God, I'm having a hard time with this one.

Let's see ...

I kissed some dude because he wanted to know what it was like to kiss me while I was involved with someone else.

I don't think I cheated.

But I think online flirting is hurtful because it's not about physical desire and temptation, its responding on a much deeper level to another person.

Personally, I don't think "cheating" should be an unforgivable sin.

Diva said...

Girl, I agree with you 110%.

Cheating is the mere intention. Of course, everybody looks. Everybody admires the opposite sex. I honestly don't think there is anything wrong with looking.

However, if one starts any kind of talking or flirting then the trust factor has, in fact, been breached.

angel said...

i am 100% with you on your definition of cheating lee!
holding hans, cuddling, online flirting... all of it!

Southern Sage said...

ummmmmmmmm
yeah holding hands and cuddling is cheating, the internet is not. If the internet is cheating, without physical contact, then thoughts are cheating. I mean if you are doing the hokie pokie and thinking of Brad Pitt or Denzel or me or Matt Damion then its the same as talking a lil smack on the net in my opinion.
SS

Szarek(Will) said...

I AM NOT going to give a response on the situation...Lee you know why!!

My Reflecting Pool said...

After 15 years with my husband, it would be harder to take if he cuddled, nuzzled and was intimate with someone else than if he just had sex. I think cheating is defined by the couple. A conversation and agreement between the two individual. What is cheating for one is not for another.

I don't mind mild flirtations as it reminds the other person they are still attractive and interesting.

If your partner has left the relationship for intellectual, emotional or sexual pursuits, then there is a problem which needs fixing should the relationship be salvagable.

Anonymous said...

it all depends on the situation if it happend or if she was tricked. think if this person ever lied! put the whole story together.